Monday, 18 August 2008
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Used and tossed like a dirty, wet paper towel
I recently broke up with my ex after a year and half relationship. We actually met through Xanga. At the beginning, we hit it off really well. Sure we didn’t seem to have a lot of interests in common, but we dug each other, that’s what counts.
About a third of the way through the relationship, I noticed something was wrong. Generally in the past, my dates would offer (even if they didn’t really mean it) to pay for dinners and movies once in a while, but she didn’t. I noticed she didn’t really pay much attention to what I said anymore nor cared about it. I noticed a lot of clubbing and hanging out with male friends. I had some chats with her and I thought she understood what I was trying to say. And she was late ALL the time.
Two thirds of the way through now, I start to get aggravated at the fact that none of this has changed. In fact, it was getting worse. I felt like a chump, being taking advantage of. I figured ‘what couple doesn’t have little things they don’t like about each other?’ and tried to look past it. In fact, I even enrolled us in a few couples’s classes to work together and build trust.
Near the end of the relationship I couldn’t handle it much anymore. Even people around me started to see the way I was being treated. Unfair, unjust, unbalanced. The last thing we did together was a couple’s rock climbing class. I had to break things off with her before they stressed me out even more. Unfortunately, we still had 1 more class to attend to. I decided it wasn’t right to go, especially by myself to a couple’s class. Little did I know, SHE went with her new beau to OUR rock climbing class that *I* paid for under MY name.
I don’t think that’s right. People shouldn’t attended classes that you pay for, especially with another guy after you break up with them. It was totally disrespectful and rude. What if I had gone too?
Do you think it is right for someone to attend something you paid for after you broke up without your consent?
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Comments (7)
Man, I wish you had gone just to see the look on her face. Sorry to hear about what happened, man. That really is messed up.
Met on xanga, eh? She still here? Send me a msg if you want. If not, I understand.
Take care, brother.
Without your consent? Definitely not. That's some shady shit. Something kinda similar to this happened to me, but I actually consented that she could bring someone else, and she ended up taking her mom to the show. In the end, it only felt like a waste of money because I wasn't able to go, but I can't really complain since I gave her permission. You on the other hand... maybe you should try to recoup your expenses? If she never offered to pay for anything in the past, maybe this is the time for her to man up, ey?
'Course not. I think you're better off without her. Her loss, anyway! Look at it this way: you paid for some classes and you went climbing with the girl and probably had a learning experience. Its like that scene in A Bronx Tale:
Sonny: What's the matter?
Colagero: This guy Louie Dumps over here, you know, he owes me
twenty dollars. It's been two weeks now, and every time he sees
me, he keeps dodging me. He's becoming a real pain in the ass, should
I crack him one or what?
Sonny: What have I been telling you, sometimes hurting someone
ain't the answer. First of all, is he a friend of yours?
Colagero: No, I don't even like him.
Sonny: You don't even like him. There's your answer right there.
Look at it this way, it cost you twenty dollars to get rid of him.
Right? He's never gonna bother you again. He's never gonna ask you
for money again. He's out of your life for 20 dollars. You got off
cheap. Forget about it.
HECK NO!!!! You should've gone and had a good time on your own. Maybe you would've met someone there and made a new friend. But since you were so set in not going you should've just cancelled and called the company and told them you were not coming and to NOT let that girl in.
I'm sorry you went through all that stuff. Man, you deserve so much better!
Dude, it could be worse:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-cHVfynwev4
That sucks what she did to you. No guys deserves that! You'll find a great one soon :)